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Get Kids to Listen with out Nagging, Reminding or Yelling
presented by Amy McCready
The Vicious Cycle: ask, repeat, remind, repeat, remind... Explode
Why do kids really misbehave?
• Have sufficient POSITIVE attention
Every child has an attention basket that needs to be filled. We are hard-wired for a driving need for positive attention. Kids WILL continue to get your attention from doing what works for them.
• I make a difference
• I contribute in meaningful ways.
Have you're kids help in age appropriate areas around the house. Sweeping, helping make the dinner salad. Making the juice. That allows the children feel capable and like they are contributing to the family.
You will find most of your conflicts in power struggles in these areas: Tantrums, back talk, attitude, homework, chores, mealtime, bedtime, potty time. All of these struggles show a key core issue of them not receiving valued moments of Belonging, Significance and Power.
Consequences ≠ Punishment
Punishment encourages LYING